Category Archives: Self-Help
True to Themselves to the End
I have observed over the years that people with illnesses that rob them of their physical strength remain true to their conative selves, yet often need assistance in fighting for the freedom to be themselves. They have a dimming of … Continue reading
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Validation by Fire
Validation is a word that comes up a lot in my life. I’m thrilled to be able to validate the power of individual differences, for instance. My dyslexia is validated with most everything I say or do – or write. … Continue reading
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Masking Success?
Does wearing a clown costume make you a clown? Does being educated at an excellent clown school make you a better clown? How many people who go to clown school actually have the conative instincts to be good clowns? (Yes, … Continue reading
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Valentine’s by Instinct: Avoiding Conative Calamities
Valentine’s is a retailers’ day of hope and many individuals’ day of despair. What’s billed as a day for sharing signs of affection is actually a day that tests your conative IQ (how smart you are about another’s MO). Valentine’s … Continue reading
Conation has It’s Place
Where does conation live? Conation is within you. It’s not just some knee jerk reaction. Or effort that requires elbow grease. Or thing that’s isolated in your guts. It oozes out of you and bursts forth from every pore. It’s … Continue reading
Life without Rue: The Snoopy Factor
Life doesn’t have to be so difficult. Work doesn’t have to take unending effort. Anger and frustration don’t have to run rampant. Conflicts don’t need to fester. Dreams shouldn’t be squashed. You can be at your best without besting someone … Continue reading
High School Musical by MO?
When people ask me about the beginnings of my leadership theories, they’re usually surprised that it started with a high school musical. In 1957, I was a part of an extraordinary adventure. Over 200 kids at New Trier High School, Winnetka, … Continue reading
Dos and Don’ts to Reduce Holiday Stress
All the positive feelings about the holidays won’t prevent conatively caused stress between family and friends. Here are a few tips to surviving those festive gatherings: Do put initiating Fact Finders in charge of explaining traditions. Let others know there … Continue reading
“Unacceptables”
“UNACCPETABLES” (Kathy Kolbe) It’s unacceptable to say you’re doing everything you can, when all you’re doing is thinking about it. It’s unacceptable to confuse natural conflict in conative ways of getting things done with ‘personality problems.’ It’s unacceptable say you’re brainstorming … Continue reading
