It’s just not worth it to ask people to do things if the way they do them doesn’t work for you.
Don’t ask initiating
Fact Finders for an answer – if you aren’t prepared to provide lots and lots of background information.
Follow Thrus for help – unless you’ve cleaned up pretty well ahead of time.
Quick Starts for ideas – if you aren’t willing to take at least some of the recommended risks.
Implementors to fix something – unless you have plenty of time to wait for it to be done really, really well.
When you know another’s M.O. you can predict what they’ll do based on non-prejudicial information, not on myths regarding gender, age, and race. You won’t make the mistake of making false assumptions that can hurt feelings and ruin relationships.
Don’t assume you can change people or that they will “wise up” and stop being whatever part of them may annoy you.
You might even see the humor in
a perfectly healthy, resistant Fact Finder forgetting important details.
a seemingly sensible initiating Follow Thru rejecting time-saving shortcuts.
an introverted initiating Quick Start surprising others with sudden decisions to do the unexpected.
a resistant Implementor pushing the wrong buttons and messing up technology.
If you know those things will happen, you have a better chance of stopping them from causing problems.
When resistant Implementors grab one of three remotes and operates it by instinct, they often mess it up.
(I just gave my resistant Implementor husband the latest, greatest universal remote. I’ll let you know if it helps.)
Leaders – and bossy spouses – have told me that knowing a person’s M.O. wouldn’t help. They would just demand that people do what they were told to do.
How has that worked for them?
When they have demanded
Fact Finders cut to the bottom line – they got errors.
Follow Thrus use short cuts – they got sloppy work.
Quick Starts stick to the script – they got turnover.
Implementors sit still and listen– they got disputes and disobedience.